There is a billboard in my city that in it’s advertisement for beer says in bold letters:
No scars, no stories
I think this makes a great philosophy on life. Take my boots for example. If I step softly and avoid the puddles and mud and only wear them on safe, shiny floors, my boots would look nicer. Instead, they are scuffed up and weather-worn. The marks they carry hold tales of where they’ve been, what places I’ve stomped through.
My body has marks, too, scars from accidents, one from a surgery, my tattoos are a kind of scar as well, inked-art that I’ve willingly defaced my skin with. Each scar on my body has it’s story, too. And then there are the invisible scars, the ones you can’t see that are mapped out on my soul. Some of them, probably most of them, are self-inflicted. I am usually my own worst enemy, unkind thoughts go unchecked and embed themselves into my emotions, and then I bleed as the barbs of self-loathing tear across the unseen flesh of who I am. These scars carry the stories I don’t like to tell. They are like the secret diaries young girls keep hidden in the top of their closet. They are my private scars from my private stories.
Then there are the scars that others have given me, either intentionally and with malice or accidentally and in ignorance. Some of these scars are huge, snakelike, wrapped around my soul. Others are so small. They are but a trace of memory of a pain that happened so long ago so as to be forgotten. Yet each scar has it’s own story. Some I remember well, in vivid living color. Others, I cannot even remember who inflicted in upon me.
And there are the other kind of scars, the kind that I have done, the damage from my life upon another human being. It is this kind of guilt that can drive a woman to drink. I thnk this is why forgiveness is so vital to spiritual and emotional as well as mental health. It is one thing to forgive others who have wounded us; it is entirely another to forgive ourselves for having done the wounding.
I wonder about the scars of Jesus. His body was scarred for all of eternity. If you believe you will see him in the afterlife look for his scars. They’ll be there. And I believe I will be there, though scarless, forgiven and redeemed, able to live in the light of His Good Love because of those scars. The scars of Jesus are like tattoos. They are scars of love.
No scars, no stories. The scarred God keeps on his body for always the story of me. I am his scar.

thanks grace for your insight. i’m glad this spoke to you. next time you have a beer remember the ad: No scars, no stories…though I’m positive that many scars come from beer-induced idiotic behaviour!
Pam,
This is an awesome post.
One thing I am learning in my middle years is that there is an experience of God in the midst of suffering that we can’t experience in other ways. I’ve spent a lot of life trying to avoid being hurt, but I agree with what you’ve said, no scars, no stories, and often no growth.
i like that line Lily, though the name Papa Roach is way too weird for me.
yes, some of us are scarred for life by different things, aren’t we?
calia, thanks for stopping by. scars are fascinating. i watched the show Top Chef for the last couple of months and the host of the show is a beautiful, exotic looking woman with a huge scar on her arm. whenever she wore a sleevless shirt i would notice her scar and wonder, What’s the story there?
i agree with you in that scars are badges of survival. i don’t think a one of us gets through this life without getting scarred up a bit, maybe not on the body, but definitely on the soul.
I like this. Ever since I was a child I’ve had a fascination with scars — to the extent that, in some of my darker moments, the urge to create my own is quite strong. I like the stories that go with them. It shows that we’ve lived, seen a bit of life — and life fought back a little. But we’ve survived.
I love that God in Jesus is scarred too.
There’s a popular song by Papa Roach, “Scars”
“Our scars remind us that the past is real…”
I have learned that embracing our scars as part of us, rather than something we need to rid ourselves of, can really aid in the healing process.