Scarred

There is a bill­board in my city that in it’s adver­tise­ment for beer says in bold let­ters:

No scars, no stories

I think this makes a great phi­los­o­phy on life. Take my boots for exam­ple. If I step softly and avoid the pud­dles and mud and only wear them on safe, shiny floors, my boots would look nicer. Instead, they are scuffed up and weather-​​worn. The marks they carry hold tales of where they’ve been, what places I’ve stomped through.

My body has marks, too, scars from acci­dents, one from a surgery, my tat­toos are a kind of scar as well, inked-​​art that I’ve will­ingly defaced my skin with. Each scar on my body has it’s story, too. And then there are the invis­i­ble scars, the ones you can’t see that are mapped out on my soul. Some of them, prob­a­bly most of them, are self-​​inflicted. I am usu­ally my own worst enemy, unkind thoughts go unchecked and embed them­selves into my emo­tions, and then I bleed as the barbs of self-​​loathing tear across the unseen flesh of who I am. These scars carry the sto­ries I don’t like to tell. They are like the secret diaries young girls keep hid­den in the top of their closet. They are my pri­vate scars from my pri­vate stories.

Then there are the scars that oth­ers have given me, either inten­tion­ally and with mal­ice or acci­den­tally and in igno­rance. Some of these scars are huge, snake­like, wrapped around my soul. Oth­ers are so small. They are but a trace of mem­ory of a pain that hap­pened so long ago so as to be for­got­ten. Yet each scar has it’s own story. Some I remem­ber well, in vivid liv­ing color. Oth­ers, I can­not even remem­ber who inflicted in upon me.

And there are the other kind of scars, the kind that I have done, the dam­age from my life upon another human being. It is this kind of guilt that can drive a woman to drink. I thnk this is why for­give­ness is so vital to spir­i­tual and emo­tional as well as men­tal health. It is one thing to for­give oth­ers who have wounded us; it is entirely another to for­give our­selves for hav­ing done the wounding.

I won­der about the scars of Jesus. His body was scarred for all of eter­nity. If you believe you will see him in the after­life look for his scars. They’ll be there. And I believe I will be there, though scar­less, for­given and redeemed, able to live in the light of His Good Love because of those scars. The scars of Jesus are like tat­toos. They are scars of love.

No scars, no sto­ries. The scarred God keeps on his body for always the story of me. I am his scar.

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Scarred — 5 Comments

  1. thanks grace for your insight. i’m glad this spoke to you. next time you have a beer remem­ber the ad: No scars, no stories…though I’m pos­i­tive that many scars come from beer-​​induced idi­otic behaviour!

  2. Pam,
    This is an awe­some post.
    One thing I am learn­ing in my mid­dle years is that there is an expe­ri­ence of God in the midst of suf­fer­ing that we can’t expe­ri­ence in other ways. I’ve spent a lot of life try­ing to avoid being hurt, but I agree with what you’ve said, no scars, no sto­ries, and often no growth.

  3. i like that line Lily, though the name Papa Roach is way too weird for me.

    yes, some of us are scarred for life by dif­fer­ent things, aren’t we?

    calia, thanks for stop­ping by. scars are fas­ci­nat­ing. i watched the show Top Chef for the last cou­ple of months and the host of the show is a beau­ti­ful, exotic look­ing woman with a huge scar on her arm. when­ever she wore a sleev­less shirt i would notice her scar and won­der, What’s the story there?

    i agree with you in that scars are badges of sur­vival. i don’t think a one of us gets through this life with­out get­ting scarred up a bit, maybe not on the body, but def­i­nitely on the soul.

  4. I like this. Ever since I was a child I’ve had a fas­ci­na­tion with scars — to the extent that, in some of my darker moments, the urge to cre­ate my own is quite strong. I like the sto­ries that go with them. It shows that we’ve lived, seen a bit of life — and life fought back a lit­tle. But we’ve survived.

    I love that God in Jesus is scarred too.

  5. There’s a pop­u­lar song by Papa Roach, “Scars”

    Our scars remind us that the past is real…”

    I have learned that embrac­ing our scars as part of us, rather than some­thing we need to rid our­selves of, can really aid in the heal­ing process.